Bridge of the Headless Horseman

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30 Things My Kids Should Know About Me - #18

What do you think your spouse loves most about you?

That is the question.  I'll write my answer first and then ask him ;)

I think Ray loves the fact that I am the glue in our family.  That's right, glue.  It's ridiculously important to me that we stay close as we all grow in separate directions.  You know, children grow up, get married, have their own families but that shouldn't separate us.  No, that should make us closer.  I have a big heart for family and am drawn to include those who are lacking in family to be a part of ours.  When I do that, it's probably one of the biggest compliments to that person.  Not everyone is fit :)

As I'm waiting his response via text I have to say that I love that Ray has a tender heart.  As we've grown up together I've noticed his heart softened and his compassion for others grow.  His passion for living is contagious and draws me in.  (There is an exception: driving.  If you have poor driving skills he will not have kind words for you.) 




Ray's answer:  “Your loving and giving heart.  That’s a really hard question to answer.  Because to narrow it down to one thing is difficult.” 

March 6, 2015 ~ Ham & Eggs

The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved; the pig is committed.

But sometimes the chicken wants to be involved but is missing a key element - the rooster!  


We got our chickens last summer.  Seriously one of the best things we've ever done.  For the story, check out this video:  Here Biddy, Biddy

We've learned so much over the last several months and continue to learn more every day.  In October 2014, a good friend named Allison gave me the sweetest gift.  She gave me a young silkie bantam.  Of course, we named her Allison.

Allison began laying on 01/29/2015.  Her eggs are smaller than the other girl's eggs but just as delicious!  I had been told that her breed can be broody and that if she became broody and we wanted to let her hatch some eggs, that Allison (friend, not bird) would supply us some eggs for her.

On February 23, Allison laid her last egg and has been broody ever since.  She steals the other hen's eggs and lays on them.  She leaves them only to run out for food and water once a day.  I found two plastic eggs and placed them under her.  She takes such good care of those eggs is appears to be hopeful that soon they will hatch and her little chicks will surround her.  Bad news.  Plastic eggs do not hatch.

Today I picked up 7 fertilized eggs for Allison to hatch.   Hopefully, she will continue to be the good mother she has been to the plastic eggs and in 11-14 days we will have a chick or two or seven.   The biological mother is a Maran.  Marans lay dark brown eggs.  The bio dad is an Ameraucana.  The hens of that breed lay blue eggs.  The hens that result should lay olive green eggs.

I moved Allison into a beautiful birthing suite for the duration of the gestation.  I'm hoping to install an "Allie Cam" and when I do, will set up the link so you can check on Allison and the chicks.



30 Things: What Is The Thing You Most Wish You Were Great At?

Forgetting.  I'm good at forgiving but forgetting the hurt is hard for me.  I care too much.


30 Things: What Are My Five Greatest Accomplishments

Simply put:
My marriage and my four children.

How about this:

1.  My marriage and family

2.  Fruitful Vine - born in my heart, FV became a reality at a time when there were no options in our community.  I felt like a pioneer dealing with all the obstacles that were in the way.  I persevered and continue to develop options for the birth community.  Excited for the next step!

3.  Conquering fears and low self esteem.  Became a pilot, thanks to a dear friend.  The confidence it gave me was life changing.  I know he knew that when he took me on as his first student.  I occasionally miss those days of taking off on CAVU days in the early morning when the world is just waking up.

4.  Becoming and being Gigi.  I am striving to be the Gigi that creates wonderful memories for her grandchildren.  The one who cuts their sandwiches with cookie cutters and leaves drawings and sweet notes on their snack bags for school.  The Gigi that has "projects" for the 5 year old while waiting for his little sister to join us.  So far so good.

5.  Family History.  Creating a legacy of our family's past, present and future!

30 Things continued: Describe when you knew your spouse was the one

Or How I Fell In Love:

I remember the exact moment.  I remember walking home from the bus stop and Ray was in front of our house on crutches.  He asked me where my brother Steve was.  My answer was simple, how  do I know?  I was just walking home from the bus stop!!!  That was in May 1973.  My feelings for Ray evolved over that summer when he joined our family on a trip to Alabama/Florida.  Mind you, I was the only one with any feelings!  To him, I was just his best friend's little sister.

It was five more years before he even saw me as anything but Steve's little sister.  We have been together for 37 plus years now.

Number 14 of 30 Things My Kids Should Know About Me

This is for you, Dad.  Thanks for the encouragement :)

Describe 5 strengths and weakness I have.

Great topic to start back on.  Yeah, right.  This is a hard one.  Deep breath and here we go:
In no particular order:

Strength:  I'm faithful and committed.  I am there through thick and thin.  The good and bad.

Weakness:  I have a hard time saying no.   At times it makes for a busy life but I'm not sure it would be as fulfilling otherwise :)

Strength:  I have a gift for helping others.  I can make anyone open up.  I listen to others well and when they need counsel I feel like the answers come easy to me.

Weakness:  I start a lot of things and finish fe

Strength:  I am a Renaissance woman.  I have many accomplishments in life.  I believe I've inherited that from my Renaissance father :)

Weakness:  I don't have anyone to confide in.  Not because there isn't anyone but more because I don't want to burden anyone.

Strength:  I have a gift of discernment that allows me to get a feeling of someone's sincerity when I first meet them.  Rarely, if ever, have I been wrong.  

Weakness:   I put off important things to do fun things.  

Strength:  I can solve mysteries and am addicted to genealogy probably because it's the ultimate in mystery solving :)

Weakness:  I have a weakness for the underdog, the misfits, the lost ones, the strays, the ones who are always left out.  I have a house full of pets who fall into that category.  At one time, we had a house full of stray children who needed a place to fit in.  This is my favorite weakness.  This is the weakness that makes me feel like I have a purpose.  The weakness for others.  I find great joy in helping the "least of these" even the fur or feathered ones.

March 6, 2014 - She Was A Good Girl


Today our family lost a friend.   Let me tell you about our friend.  We fell in love with her before we ever met her.  Mostly because of her brother, Kai.  What a sweet natured boy.  But it wasn't the love that first drew me to her but the fact that she needed someone to rescue her and show her the love of family.

Cassie was born to two champion chocolate labradors in 2002.  She was a Christmas gift to the breeder's daughter.  When a patient and good friend told me she was trying to find a home for this unnamed 9 month old lab, I immediately responded that we would take her.  In her short nine months she was crated and rarely, if ever, let out of her crate.  She was covered in feces and urine all the time.  She weighed 35 pounds and her ribs were showing.  Our friend, Heather, made a plan to rescue our girl.  It was on a Sunday morning and she was due any day with her first baby.  She knocked on the owners door and there was no answer.  She walked in and woke her up, told her she was taking the dog.  Heather had to drag the crate through the house , feces and urine with it.  The woman came out and defended herself saying she had just bathed the dog the day before.  Doubtful.  Heather brought her to her home and gave her two baths.  Cassie and Kai ran around the yard, jumping in the swimming pool.  

I remember the day we picked her up from Heather's house.  Our son Jeff came with me.  He was almost 10 years old and it was a perfect time for him to have his own dog.  Over the years she became affectionately known as Jeff's girl.  We took her to PetSmart to buy her a collar and tag.  I was embarrassed to bring her in, as she was so emaciated.  I vowed to fatten her up and bring her back.

It took her less than a week to house train her.  After just a few lessons, she was doing simple commands like sit and down.  After a while she would "speak", play fetch and like any good lab, retrieve just about anything.   She loved swimming in the lake behind the house.  I cannot count the times she would swim out of the yard and wander through the neighborhood.  

Perhaps her greatest love was lizards.  She had her eye on chasing lizards and it was the first thing she did when she was let out of the house.  In fact, one night several years ago, she ran into a pile of wood to get a lizard and knocked two of her bottom teeth out.  Ah, the sacrifices she made to capture a lizard!

In the last year, she started losing weight.   Never a large lab, she weighed 55 pounds in her prime.  Last April she weighed 51 pounds.  It was my first clue that Jeff's girl was getting old.  In January, I noticed a mass on her abdomen.  I took her to our amazing vet, Dr. Galipalli.  Her weight had dropped to 44 pounds.  He did a needle biopsy and started her on antibiotics.  The mass looked like mastitis.  The biopsy results came back negative for cancer but included a note of caution that cancer couldn't be ruled out in an intact female.  I was hopeful.

In mid February, Cassie suddenly developed vestibular disease.  She couldn't walk.  I took her back to Dr. G and he prescribed some medication.  By the next day, the girl was walking but still seemed "off".  We were optimistic, I knew we had some quality time left with her.  I took her back to Dr. G a week later as that mass had more than tripled.  We both decided more out of curiosity than anything to do a tissue biopsy.  The next day, Cassie slowly started to fade.  

A couple of years ago we lost our 16 year old family dog to cancer.  A good friend and vet told me I would know when it was "time".  Until that "time" came I kept asking myself "is this it?".  It's a fine line between selfish love and letting go.   My friend was correct.  When Ursa's time came I knew it.  No question about it.  We were able to let her go peacefully.

Since Monday of this week, every hour of every day, I wondered if it was time to take her in.  Each time I had that thought, Cassie would look at me, perk up her ears and wag her tail.  I took that as a sign that she wasn't ready yet.

Thursday morning at 4:30, Cassie woke me up.  She managed to get to my side of the bed and I heard her.  Her breathing had become more labored.  I stayed up with her.  Offering her water.  She wouldn't drink.  It was time.  I asked her to wait until 7:00 when Dr. G's office opened and I would take her in.  I would let her go.  

At 7:10 Ray, Jeff and I arrived at Dr. G's office with Cassie.  He wasn't in the office that day but when his tech called him to tell him there was an emergency, he told her he would be right in.  Ray carried her in.  I wanted to get her weight one more time.   Then Ray picked her up from the scale and placed her on the blanket on the floor in the exam room.  Immediately I knew she was fading FAST.  I laid on the floor with her, stroking her head and telling her it was okay to go.  Within two minutes she was gone.  She waited until 7:20.  Dr. G walked in 2 minutes later and confirmed she was gone.

Twenty four hours later, I'm still listening for her nails to click on the wooden floors as she walks through the house.  I'm sad but more than that I'm thankful.  Thankful to Heather for rescuing our girl.    Thankful for Dr. G and his staff for caring.  Thankful for the years we had with Cassie.  

She was a good girl.
Chasing heavenly lizards